Many times we have heard the phrase “it is a matter of attitude” but, do we know what it means? Do we know what it implies and truly means?
Let us start by defining what attitude is. It is defined as the effect of the set of beliefs and values relatively stable throughout time in the disposition or tendency to act in a certain way or commit some kind of action. It is about a determining aspect when it comes to take an action and the type of emotion that such activity generates or the way of interacting when facing a concrete situation or stimulus.
Besides, the individual’s attitude is developed and depends on the environment in which this attitude is developed, and, it can also depend on inherited or biological patterns, and the negative or positive reinforcement the person exercises when facing certain stimulus.
Then, the approach we have on any situation we could face in life will depend on the concepts and the basis of the development that have been built throughout our lives, based on the experiences we have lived and the internal and external factors that lead us to perceive that situation in one way or another. Therefore, our way of acting before such situation will depend on the attitude we decide to have when facing it.
The results and perspectives we will obtain will be the reflection of the actions we take motivated by the attitudes we manifest in the midst of adversity or “good fortune”.
Sometimes the way we see life and how we face what it has set for us make the difference between happiness or sadness, and between satisfaction or frustration. Because sometimes, what happens to us or, at least, the way we perceive it, is a matter of attitude.
Many people have adopted a very pessimistic perception throughout their lives and they do not find a way out to overcome that event that affects them. This way, they avoid taking responsibility when facing the happenings that life gives them.
These people, generally, put all the responsibility regarding their “disgrace” outside their orbit of action. This is called external locus of control. It is always the other person who is responsible or “guilty” of any negative situation in his/her life. Phrases like “you are the one to blame for all my problems” are common among these people.
The other group is the one who sees life with more optimism. They know the circumstances life brings them are challenges for them to grow. Therefore, they live less stressed, they tend to appear happier and smile more. They are the ones who know that life is not threatening itself, but that what makes it “good” or “bad”” is a matter of attitude. For that reason, they take the freedom to choose how to face it. Therefore, this is where the phrase “it is all about attitude” applies. We decide how to face the events and situations. The results will depend on the approach we have, in which we manifest the attitude we take.
Very little is said about Joseph. Every sermon that is preached around this December holiday season is about Mary, the baby Jesus, the wise men and shepherds. But Joseph’s attitude in this whole plot of Jesus’ birth is interesting.
He was getting ready for his wedding with his fiancée Mary, coordinating the guests, the pastor who would marry them, the place of the reception. In fact, Joseph was very busy when one day he saw Mary coming to him, crying without knowing what to say. After he asked her to tell him what was going on, she answered him: “I am pregnant, I am going to have a baby”. The first thing that came to Joseph’s mind was: “That baby is not mine, whose is it?”
How would you react on news like that? Maybe you would have cursed Mary, or regretted the day you met her. But Joseph did not. He had a different attitude. He was a just man, a man of integrity and faithful to God. He did not judge or draw his own conclusions on the matter, but he simply decided to protect Mary because he loved her, and the best thing he could do was to separate from her without anyone noticing it. And when he was ready to carry out his plan, the angel of the Lord approached him and explained to him everything that was happening with Mary. There, Joseph understood the purpose God had for him, for his life. The attitude he decided to have when facing this situation made the difference between fleeing or having such an important role in the history of the world, by raising the Savior, who came to live in his very own home.
What is your attitude when facing the challenges you have in your life? Do you have a faith like the one Joseph had, who did not doubt the angel of Jehovah’s message and had an important role in the history of the world? Are there any situations in your life that could have been different if your attitude had been different when facing them? Do you think the attitude you have when facing situations influences how they turn out in your life? Share your opinion and your experiences with us in the comments section and tell us your point of view. God bless you.