Let us talk today about emotional maturity. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law” (Galatians 5:22-23). When connected to God’s Spirit, we can grow in a fruit that produces emotional maturity. In one way or another, your emotional maturity will ultimately lie on your ability to be fully dependant on God’s Spirit to provide you with wisdom and to give you the will to act according to His faithfulness, not our moodiness.
The person with self-control works on his/her emotions with a rational mind, that is, he/she knows that thoughts control what he/she feels. In order to be happy it is required to pay better attention to our needs and to master the mental habits that can lead us to having more positive thoughts. Which means that a sad person or a person with fear is immersed in a spiral of emotions he/she cannot control, preventing him/her from focusing and thinking clearly.
It is obvious that emotional maturity does not just arise from thin air. It requires work, will, effort, and the desire to look within. It is not just having your head in its place, but also your heart. Being a mature person gives you a certain sense of serenity and stability over time. Not everyone has the same level of emotional maturity. Everyone has their own rhythm. There are people close to their 40s who still do not assume responsibilities. They are unable to engage in their own daily lives, and you see them developing childish behaviors.
Behind emotional immaturity there may be some hidden brain failures. Perhaps it is not just about being a capricious person, but one whose maturity is still in the developmental process. The brain continues to develop after childhood and adolescence. It is not fully mature until we are in our 30s, and it does not even reach its fullness until we are 40 years old. It is worth asking, what are the features of emotional maturity in an adult person? Am I an emotionally mature person, so to speak?
Now, “emotional maturity” is a term used on people who have high Emotional Intelligence and have learned to self- regulate. Take this opportunity to introduce a new idea into your mind: Emotional maturity begins when you can accept people and things as they really are. Self-control leads to a better understanding of our emotions and those of others.
When a person gets along with others, it necessarily fits what they feel, and they respond according to the circumstances.
Maturity is the concept that defines a person who can empathize with others, analyze a situation in an impartial way, and control his/her emotions in order to achieve his/her purposes satisfactorily. The goal is to put into practice the principles of empathy when people are in a situation of conflict or discomfort with another person. The main characteristic in a mature person is to maintain mental serenity, and for that, you must accept that life has emotional ups and downs, bad ones and lesser bad ones, good ones and better ones. Accept, judge less, and be more curious. Life changes constantly. Create original stories, humorous ones. Keep in mind that what you say speaks more about you than about the other person. All this involves the attitude that a mature person possesses.
Do you want to know if you are in the process of developing emotional maturity? Ask yourself: do I make firm decisions? Do I have emotional independence? Start to see your process of emotional maturity progressively. Step by step you can move towards emotional independence and interdependence when you work with others.
Read the book “Learning to Love” and discover how to acquire emotional maturity in your life.