Understanding, love and God, is a good summary of the elements that will heal the hearts and minds of traumatized people. But in order to do so, they will need cooperation and support.
If you are a person who has lived through a tragic event, you should know that the strength to get up is in you. And if you have seen someone you love suffer because of it, the strength to guide them is also in you. So, I want to teach you how to guide and guide you to healing.
- How to recover from emotional crises
Recovery from emotional crises is possible, but you will need to focus on it in order to find the answers you need. Here are some tips to help you heal:
- Minimize exposure to memories:
If you are a survivor of a natural disaster or an accident, the media may report on that case. Likewise, social media has become a space for the distribution of this kind of information, so try to stay away from it all so you don’t relive those memories.
Exposure to these kinds of memories needs to be limited, because it is not healthy to reminisce over and over again about a tragedy. It does not let you move forward.
- Accept your feelings:
Emotions that you thought you would never experience are very likely to be experienced because of traumatic stress. So, try to accept all those feelings, and understand that they are normal. It is normal to feel anger, guilt, or shock.
No one has the right to judge you for the feelings you have. On the contrary, it is healthy to surround yourself with those who want to offer you unconditional support. Keep in mind that God will always be by your side, and that you can talk to him for encouragement.
- Begin to challenge your own powerlessness:
To overcome you will have to face, so start taking positive actions that will allow you to overcome all that fear, powerlessness and hopelessness you may feel. It may sound simple, but believe me when I tell you it will make a difference.
Some people use helping victims who have gone through similar situations as a strategy for healing and peace of mind. Others volunteer for those in need during traumatic events. Opening that door may be scary, but once you open it, you will realize how much good it can do you.
Exercise. It’s not a joke, it’s advice! When suffering from the kind of stress generated by these events, one way to escape is to start exercising. Being in constant motion will help burn adrenaline and release endorphins.
Your mood will greatly improve, and so will your body. Your nervous system needs to be stimulated and with activities like walking, running, swimming or playing a sport, you will be doing just that. For more complete results, focus on the physical activity you do, every step, every kick, feel more in touch with your body than ever before.
- Reach out to others:
Man came into the world to live in community, that was God’s intention. That is why, in difficult times, distancing ourselves from those who care for us will not be the most advisable thing to do, but rather the opposite, to unite with those who care for us.
A traumatic event can work to bring us closer to those from whom we have distanced ourselves for one reason or another. Just the simple action of talking face to face with someone else can trigger stress-relieving hormones.
If you are afraid to talk to those people about the event, it doesn’t have to be about it. You can seek solace in talks that help you feel connected, or chats that are “normal”.
- Six essential tools to overcome the crisis
To conclude, I would like to give you 6 very useful tools to overcome a crisis:
Use the TIPP tool when you are close to an emotional breakdown. Its name is an acronym for the ways it advises to reduce stress. They are Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, y Paired muscle relaxation.
Start by changing your body temperature by splashing water on your face. After exercising a lot, it is difficult to get upset when you are exhausted. Next is to control your breathing to decrease the emotional pain, and then relax your muscles, let them rest.
In a similar way to the previous one, this tool is used to tolerate negative emotions until you have to face them.
You can use it by doing a healthy activity that keeps you away from negative emotions. Also doing something kind for someone else just for the joy caused is part of this tool to make comparisons or put your life in perspective.
In case you feel distress, you will be free to invoke an opposite emotion to it. Other activities that follow in this tool is to walk away from problems and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
This tool is perfect when you have no control over something but have to tolerate it. As parts of its techniques are imagination and meaning. In the first one you must imagine yourself successfully dealing with the problem, and in the second one, you must find the meaning to those situations that hurt you.
Next is prayer, that’ s right, prayer will serve to surrender your problems and tolerate. You need to relax, and let go of the past and the future. More tips from these tools are to encourage yourself with affirmative and positive phrases.
#4 LIST OF PROS Y CONS:
If you want to make sensible decisions in difficult times, this tool will be useful. You just need to make a list with positive and negative points of all the options you have.
When you finish, compare the options available to you. With this type of lists you will be able to control impulses.
To diminish the power of negative emotions this tool is helpful. It basically advises you to focus on your own senses to clear yourself of negative feelings.
Use your sight to focus on something, the colors on a wall, the pictures in an album; use your ears to listen to birdsong or the flow of water.
The same will happen with the senses of taste, touch and smell, look for elements that are pleasant to you and put you in a good mood. Enjoy them. As a bonus, movement is included as a sixth sense. Move your body by dancing, walking.
#6 RADICAL ACCEPTANCE:
And if you will have to live an unpleasant situation that will not change, this tool is recommended. It serves to accept reality and move on.
In short, it will serve to give you to understand that even though the available options do not please you, you will have to select them and adapt. Having distress in this type of tool is common or discouraging, but it will serve to control compulsive behavior.